The following are excerpts from a piece passed on to me by one of my favorite people, Joan Fleming. I don't know who the author is, but wanted to share some of his/her insights about love.
It is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery why some love grows and why some love fails.
Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the interests adn attractions, and commonalities that two people share.
Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life - the gift of love will come to you in full flower. Take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you fora brief moment then move on. Too often when this happens, people try to grasp the love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a gift taht just as freely moves away.
You need to know this. You need to know that there is no meaning beyond the love itself. You need to treat it wiht kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself . There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to sit in the other person's heart.
Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. Alll you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. GIve it to the world around you in any way you can.
Love has its time, its own seasosn, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You canonly embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. If you keep your heart open, love will come to visit.